The Rules of Being a Lady*

1. Stay Classy.
2. Act like a lady, think like a man.
3. Respect yourself, if you don't, he won't either.
4. Keep your head, heels and standards high.
5. The less you care, the happier you will be.
6. Don't fall for words, fall for actions.
7. How he treats his mother is a pretty good indicator of how he will treat you.
8. Be confident in yourself, to be beautiful you have to feel beautiful.
9. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.
10. You can't expect him to be perfect, nobody is.
11. Be kind, always.
12. A lady always knows when it's time to go.
13. The outward appearance is the lowest form of beauty.
14. Forgive, even before they say they're sorry.
15. If he doesn't chase you when you walk away, keep walking.
16. Pray for your nation.
17. Be the flame, not the moth.
18. Fall in love when you're ready, not when you're lonely.
19. If you ever get caught sleeping at work/school, raise your head slowly and say, "In Jesus' name, amen."
20. ...and last but certainly not least, my favorite of them all:

"If he misses you, he'll call.

If he wants you, he'll say it.

If he cares, he'll show it.

And if not, he can't be worth your time

because you're obviously not worth his."

When you have moments of self doubt, check back in and review this list. You were fearfully and wonderfully made and deserve to be treated as a prize not a toy. Let no one ever tell you that you can't do what you feel in your heart that you can. Be the flame, not the moth. Hold your head high and face the day with knowing that today is one day closer to meeting the one person who will treat you as the prize that you are. Until then, pray. Pray for yourself (it's okay to do that..) Pray for your future husband. Pray for your family and friends. Pray for your nation. Pray for humility and patience. Most of all, pray for God to bless you so that you may too be a blessing. Don't let one negative moment take away who you are. Use it as fuel. Be so consumed with your relationship with God that any man who wants to get to you has to go through him first.
 

I'm praying for you.

Until next time,

M.

 

 

P.S. You can find several other "Rules for Being a Lady" online. I found many of these on Pinterest. 

If you want to be happy..be*

 

                                    

I've said time and time again that I am so looking forward to a new year... that 2013 was a sad country song and that I was looking forward to a new beginning. Like everyone, I was looking for hope. Hope for the next great thing to come along. Hope for my big break. Hope for this.. Hope for that... but in reality.. January 1,2014 wasn't really all that different than the day before. It was just another day. I didn't wake up next to the man of my dreams, I didn't wake up 20 pounds lighter, I hadn't kicked all my bad habits.. Same thing, different day. In reality, we aren't necessarily just looking for a miracle, but we are searching for a starting point and I guess the first day of the year is as good of a time as any.

I didn't have to make resolutions this year because after a long back and forth struggle with God, I've finally found my breaking point. I feel like I've honestly gone as far as I can possibly go by doing things my way. I'm out of gas. When I finally hit the wall, I prayed. I prayed for conviction. I prayed for guidance. I prayed the most desperate prayer you could imagine. I asked God every single heart-breaking question that I could before I felt a sudden peace. I felt the conviction. I felt the forgiveness and I felt like I had finally gotten the weight that I'd been carrying for the past 4 years off my shoulders. Even though I felt better, I still had something holding me back. Something I wasn't ready to let go of yet. Something I'm still not so sure I want to let go.. But I'm going to do it because we've seen how well ,my plan has worked out.

        

   

My new focus is on patience and self control. I struggle with these more than any other thing in my life. I am very impatient. I feel like if I don't get something from the beginning then I never will. That's another issue for another day. So throughout every aspect of my life, I'm working on self control and patience... With my thoughts, my diet, my relationships, my friends, my family... You name it.

This may sound silly to you, but I'm kind of putting myself through a "boot camp" if you will for two weeks. It takes two weeks to make a habit. I'm sure two weeks can break them too. I'm trying to supplement my downfalls with better habits.  I'm not challenging anyone or comparing to anyone, I just feel like I need to do this for me. I honestly feel like I've been stuck lately. I've been stuck between who I am and who I feel like I should be. I'm leaps and bounds from where I was this time last year but still haven't figured out exactly who I am or where I'm going and I feel like by 26 I should have some idea.

   

This is who I want to be. More than anything, at the end of the day, I want others to remember that I treated them with compassion, that I was kind and showed humility and gentleness and hopefully one day soon they will say that I was patient with them as well. I'm a work in progress. Don't count me out just yet. Please just pray for me as I start this journey.

If I'm anything, I'm honest..

Until next time,

M.

New Year, New You..

It's that time of year again, people! The time where you categorize all that is wrong with you and decide that you are going to change! New year, new you. Most of the time, the New Year's resolutions that I see are so negative. We are always so down on ourselves. This year my New Year's resolutions are going to be positive changes. I want to laugh more. I want to let go of the small things. I want to stop over analyzing everything. I want to make more friends. I want to be a better person. I want to be a little more spontaneous. I want to take more time appreciating the person that I am instead of being upset about not being the person that you think I should be. I want to take the time to notice the little things and appreciate them. I want to spend all of the time with my family that I can. I want to invest in my friendships, I may stay out a little later on a night that I have to wake up and work a double the next morning..but that's okay..it's the memories that matter. Please join me in making 2014 a positive experience. Let's learn from 2013 and leave it exactly where it was. Don't let the baggage from last year make it into this year, because this year is going to be awesome.

Until next time,
M.